It was rough

For me personally the first 45 days after we decided to call it quits after 2 years of counseling was the worst. Being married for almost a decade and being suddenly out of touch with my kids sucked. You have thje liongering thoughts that maybe you will reconcile, ain't gonna happen even if it does those situation have a 10% success rate (Got that from a Dr. Phil show I surfed by one day). The shock and awe of it was difficult, I had to focus on myself, reconnecting with family and friends, working out and eating right, lost 35 lbs, worked up to running 8 miles a day, went from 36 inch pants to 32. There are various stages you go through and fall back into, denial, anger, bargaining etc.. its like death and almost as difficult. I thought but half the married couples go south so I can work through it. Stay out, make plans, workout, that is what I did and even met a few nice women.